Shamed for being fat. Shamed for being fit. Women can't win

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There is ample research revealing the negative effects of fat shaming, but what about so-called “fit shaming”?

When it comes to judgment of their bodies, women can’t win.

“Research consistently shows the pressure to maintain a particular physique is stronger for women,” said Kelly Brownell, dean of the Sanford School of Public Policy at . Brownell, an expert in weight bias, says women are valued more for their appearance, and there is less acceptance of variation in body shape and size.

People often make fat jokes, but shaming of obesity is no joke. “People who experience weight discrimination have more daily stressors, physical symptoms and negative emotions,” according to a .

There is ample research revealing the negative effects of fat shaming, but what about so-called “fit shaming”? Seeing how fitness is mostly lauded, it’s absurd to say fit shaming is somehow worse. Yet it’s worth examining to reveal how women constantly have their bodies policed by society, no matter their size or shape.

I spoke to three women who were shamed for being fat, and then, after losing weight and getting in shape, shamed in a different way for being fit.

Sarah Moore is a 29-year-old mother of three in Fort Wayne, Ind. Formerly a stay-at-home mom, she became a personal trainer after losing more than 100 pounds. She remembers the fat-shaming she endured before her weight loss.

“People I knew would say, ‘You have such a pretty face’ as a backhanded compliment,” Moore said. “Another time, at the beach, I wore a bikini, and I heard some teenage boys call me ‘disgusting.’” She talked about another time at an amusement park waiting to get on a roller coaster. People behind her were complaining about the wait, and the attendant told them within her earshot: “Don’t worry. She’s not going to fit on here, and you’ll be next.”

Family members would often say, “Are you sure you want another helping?” After losing weight, Moore said people commented on her body even more.

“When you’re in shape, people feel like it’s OK to say something,” she said. “Now I get comments like, ‘Are you sure you can eat that?’ because they’re worried I’ll regain the weight.” Some think she should only eat salad to stay lean. On her Instagram posts, many have said variations of “Muscles are for men.”

Friends have said of her new physique, “Aren’t you taking this a little far?” She also experienced criticism over her gym time with comments like, “Shouldn’t you be home taking care of your children?”

How does it make her feel?

“I feel like I take the fit shaming more personally because it’s a result of my choices; I worked really hard for it. Getting fat wasn’t something I did on purpose.” Overall, however, “fat shaming made me feel sad and helpless, and fit shaming makes me angry.”

The story is similar for Julie Stubblefield of Mechanicsville, Va., a mother of two who lost 70 pounds. She said friends began making her eating habits their business.

“I would be at lunch with friends who were thinner than I am, and they’d suggest I eat a salad instead of a burger,” Stubblefield said. “Or they’d say, ‘Do you know how many calories you just ate?’ Which is funny, because I thought about it every day.”

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